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1.       Practice gratitude - be grateful for what you have, rather than focusing on what you don’t have. Most people in the Singapore have material comfort, security & health far greater than that of people living only a few hundred years ago, but for many people their perception is of lack, what they don’t have. When I’m feeling low, I ask myself “What are some of the things, people & experiences that you’re most grateful for”.  Make a list of some of the things that you’re most grateful for, then talk to someone else about it. You’ll feel good!

2.       Say “thank-you” to feelings. Feelings are messengers, but people often fight them. Instead, say “thank-you” to your feelings, & open to the information they’ve been trying to give you. Then notice how quickly the feelings begin to shift, change & dissipate. What you resist persists, but what you accept melts away.

3.       Accept yourself exactly as you are. We’re inundated by marketing telling us how we need to change ourselves &/or consume stuff in order to be happy, but that’s a big lie. Instead, you can accept yourself exactly as you are. When you accept yourself as you are, your mind & body relax, and everything becomes easier. Stop, and say to yourself “I accept myself exactly as I am”, and notice what happens. Some people immediately feel a sense of peace and calm, while others experience internal arguments and discomfort. Whatever happens for you, don’t fight it; accept it; say “thank-you”. People sometimes think “If I accept myself as I am I’ll never get what I want”, but when you accept things as they are in this moment (including yourself), you put yourself in the most powerful position to make changes.

4.       Say nice things to yourself. If criticism was going to work, it probably would have worked by now. Most people talk to themselves in critical internal voices, saying mean things. But the happiest people say nice things to themselves, & use a nice tone of voice. Of course, the “mean” things may have useful information, so say them in a nice or funny voice tone (eg a favourite cartoon character).

5.       Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want. Whether setting your goals for the year, or deciding what sort of afternoon you want with your in-laws, focus on what you want, not what you don’t want. What you focus on increases, so if you focus on “not having an argument”, your brain thinks about arguing to make sense of it. Instead, focus on what you want, eg. Having a happy, fun, peaceful day.

6.       Understand others first. Christmas is often a time of arguments & strife. If you’re feeling tense, say thank-you to the feelings, then focus on what you want. What’s more important, having a happy, peaceful day, or being right? Put yourself in the other person’s shoes - they may be doing the best they can, & just happen to be kind of annoying with it. Who knows, they may even have a good point to make.

7.       Measure your progress by looking back. The happiest most successful people measure their progress by looking back at how far they’ve come. Look at what you’ve accomplished in the last year. Even if you’re not aware of having accomplished much, you’re alive, which is a five-star evolutionary accomplishment, so give yourself a pat on the back.

8.       Set goals for 2008. You’re capable of more than you think you are. Ask “What do I want to be / do / have in 2008?” & “How will I know I’ve got it?”

9.       Decide to be happy today. Abraham Lincoln said “Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.” If you’re feeling unhappy about something, ask “What would it mean if I were not unhappy about that?”). Sometimes people are unhappy because they think they’re supposed to be, but it’s not compulsory!

10.   Practice moderation in all things. It seems that excessive consumption may not be the key to happiness after all! If you must go “over the top”, focus excessively on what you’re grateful for.

Wish you all a Merry Christmas and a happy prosperous NEW YEAR 2008!

Recently I found a very interesting website which provides free career test. You should answer 7 sections of future proof your career questions, then you would get your online career profile. It finds Your Life’s Purpose and Ideal Career too.

I had done the test and found it 75% matched to my career profile.

FPYC Personal Profile for Carol

FPYC temperament type: ESFS - Generous, dependable, nurturing, obliging, popular, goodhearted, sympathetic, gracious. Good in predictable, structured activities.

Dominant intelligences: Intrapersonal, Logical Mathematical, Interpersonal, Linguistic and Visual Spatial.

Dominant abilities: Caring and Serving, Self Awareness, General Visual Spatial, Proactivity, Self Discipline and Art and Design.

Fields of Work: Education, training and library, Art and design and Media.

Knowledge worker status: Level 1 Knowledge Worker - Knowledge User and Creator.

Knowledge age skills:

If you wish to get your free career report, go here:- 

I have recently attended the Patterns of Excellence program Mod2. There was few months gap between my POE mod1 and mod2. After completed my mod1, I thought it was super good NLP program and I have never realized that mod2 could be so much better than the mod1.

One of the things you’re really going to love about the MOD2 is just how quickly you will become irresistibly influential by using new language skill. I know those who had attended MOD2 know what I am talking about. 

I have also learnt two very important lessons from this MOD2:-
(1) Who I am. I have been a champion since the day I was born. I came to this world with a purpose which is to do whatever it takes to make my life worthful.  (2) When life is shaking, I should stay focus on my outcome. Enjoy the journey, the journey of my life. The more I enjoy, the more I could achieve.   

I know what I have learnt in MOD2 are going to benefit me a lot in the rest of my life. For those who have never attended POE (Patterns of Excellence) yet, I sincerely encourage you to do yourself a favor – sign up this program and experience all these yourself. 

Image how good you will feel when you suddenly realize that you can be more influential than you ever thought possible. See you in the POE. 

Let’s Whooooooooosh on~~~~~~~   

24 September 2007: It is a day to remember. Today we offically launched Nash’s very 1st ebook on “10 Things to ask before you buy a Personal Computer“.

 

This book is written primarily to help students, families and small business owners to get a quick understanding of the PC basics and help them choose a good PC, with their hard saved money.

Go to http://nashtupil.com/pcbook/ to find out what information you will be receiving on a silver platter NOW…and grab a copy at its pre-launch discount price.

Nash will give major part of the proceeds of this ebook towards a charitable cause of planting more trees, to make our world a better place for you and me. Details at: http://www.projectgreenhands.org

Happy Reading~~~

Recently I have read a very interesting e-book: “Thinking Through Problem Solving,” cleverly written by Valarie A. Washington, which showed me a new way of thinking about problem solving that encourages effective detection of a potential headache before it gets out of hand.  Now this skill is something I can definitely use in my own company!  I know you are intrigued at this point and I am happily giving you the e-book for FREE!

The CEO of Think 6 presents a new model for addressing problems called the Ladder of Problem Solving that aims “to develop personal accountability, collaborative problem solving, and growth.”  It explored problem-solving traps and tips on how not to fall into these again.  Her insights are awesome and I cannot wait to put it into practice!   

You can get this e-book here

Happy Reading!